There are some things in life not worth keeping. Letting go of negative qualities which dominate your ego will only lead to a greater sense of self and happiness. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering when we could otherwise let them go. We attach ourselves to their energy on a daily basis. Isn’t it time to reprogram ourselves and our lives? Isn’t it time to change our truth? Here are 20 things you need to let go of in order to find lasting peace of mind.
01. Your Need to Always Be Right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong — wanting to always be right — even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. We love to right-fight. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question, from Wayne Dyer: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? Ultimately everybody has their own perspective. Yours is only one and it may be no more correct than another.
02. Your Need For Control
Be willing to let go of your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you — situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street — just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that will make you feel. You can never control anybody but yourself.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond winning.” ~ Lao Tzu
03. Your Need to Blame
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life. Blame is only self-judgement for things you could not accept in your own life.
04. Your Self-Defeating Self-Talk
How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you — especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. You are divine and very powerful creator. Start recognizing that.
05. Your Limiting Beliefs
About what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. Don’t allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
06. Your Concept of Truth
Truth is 360 degrees. Everybody has their own version of the truth along that path and your version is no more correct than another. Your version of the truth is dictated by your path and learning experience which is completely defined by your vibrational state. That is why we are so unique and capable of creating our own realities. We are what we think. It is much wiser to agree to disagree than impose your truth on another person whose learning experience may be the polar opposite of your own, after all your truth is only YOUR TRUTH not anyone else’s.
07. Your Complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things — people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. IT is your perspective. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
08. Your Criticism
Give up your need to criticize all things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and to be loved, and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all. When you criticize, you are again passing self-judgement for something lacking in your life that you refuse to let go of.
09. Your Guilt
Guilt is a trick of the mind. It is a game your mind plays with you and it’s not very much fun. It brings your attention to ways in which you may be out of integrity, doing wrong and not honoring yourself, others or the universe at large. Accept responsibility for yourself, your life and your actions. You are response-able. You are an adult. You are account-able, meaning, with every action you take, you account for it. You chose to do it; you must accept the consequences of it and you did it all for a reason…to learn. If you continue to feel guilty, you stop learning.
10. Your Need To Impress Others
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly. Success may have nothing to do with how much money you have or how many cars you have, but how you choose to live a life of abundance which comes in many forms, many of which have nothing to do with material things.
11. Your Resistance to Change
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change — don’t resist it.
12. Your Perceived Pain
All pain is perceived and we all perceive it differently. It affects us all differently. You cannot interpret the pain of others unless you have experienced the same pain (i.e. losing a child). It allows us to grow and shatter barriers that would otherwise be impossible beyond the painful event. Without some semblance of pain in our lives, it is difficult to learn. When we let go of our pain, life changes and flows in ways we never dreamed possible. If you think you can’t get rid of your pain, you are only confirming your self-limiting beliefs and why the pain is there in the first place.
13. Your Labels
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.
14. Your Fears
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist — you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. Most of the limiting factors on this page stem from fear. Release your fear and everything will change in your life, almost simultaneously. Many successful people have achieved great heights only because they have let go of their fear of success.
15. Your Excuses
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses — excuses that most of the time are not even real. We sabotage ourselves beyond belief. If you find yourself making excuses, ask yourself why you are creating the excuse in the first place?
16. Your Past
We often assume the past looked so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for — the past that you are now dreaming about — was ignored by you when it was present.
Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now. Work on this by practicing with simple tasks every day. For example, when you cut the grass, just think about the grass and nothing else. When you’re washing the dishes, immerse your full presence in dish washing. Eventually, your life will revolve around your day today, not yesterday.
17. Your Attachments
This is a concept that, for most of us is so very difficult to grasp, but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them — because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
18. Your Resentment
Let go of your internal resentment towards people, situations and events. If you hold a grudge, you only take power away from yourself and learning stops. Your resentment towards anything is a result of all of the limiting qualities on this page. Learn how to forgive. This is true strength.
19. Your Expectations of Yourself and Others
Let go of any expectations of yourself that will limit your growth. If you hold high expectations for how others should behave, you will often be disappointed if they do not represent themselves in the manner you expected. It is only your expectations of people that cause you to judge them, which ultimately is a judgement of yourself.
Far too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them; they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them; to what their friends, their enemies, their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need… and eventually theyforget about themselves. You have one life — this one right now — you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.